Not Everything We Think is True

One of the main surprises to people can be the acknowledgement that not everything we think is true. We have absolutely no control over the next thought that’s going to appear, but for some reason, probably because we crave a sense of certainty, we can believe we are responsible for the thoughts we have.  In fact, our thoughts are automatic in nature, just like our breathing. Just as one breath follows another without any of our control so our thoughts operate in a very similar way. 

Some intrusive thoughts can be quite difficult and distressing and we can often buy into the idea that these characterise us in some way and can mean we are mad or bad people.  Recognising the automatic nature of our thought process allows us the ability to step back and observe our thoughts and question how accurate they might be. 

You Can Challenge Your Thoughts

Our thoughts link to how we feel both emotionally and physically and can have significant consequences on how we behave. For example, if I have thoughts around not doing things very well or making a fool of myself, I might avoid particular situations and this only reinforces the original thought. Suddenly, I find myself in a vicious circle that’s hard to break. Questioning the initial thought e.g. ‘I might make a fool of myself’, allows me to challenge and explore any previous experiences where this hasn’t been the case. I am able to draw upon past situations and remember things worked out ok and that the worst thing didn’t happen.  

The ability to observe our thinking and challenge unhelpful thoughts is a truly positive tool to have. Talking therapy can help teach and encourage this process which, in turn, helps manage anxiety and depression.